Mindful Mama Podcast - Episode 135: Highly Sensitive Persons with Julie Bjelland
Hunter talks to Julie Bjelland about Highly Sensitive Persons.
Some big takeaways from this episode include:
1. Many of us walk around with masks on.
2. Ways to reduce anxiety and stress.
3. How we parent makes a HUGE difference for highly sensitive children.
Mom & Mind Podcast - Episode 115: The Highly Sensitive Mother
High sensitivity is a trait and not a disorder--and it’s NOT the same as introversion (30% of HSP’s are extroverts and 20% are introverts)
From Elaine Aron’s work on HSP’s: Depth of Processing, Overstimulation, Emotionally responsive, and Sensitivity to subtle stimuli (DOES)
The judgment around being sensitive and its connection to weakness
How scientific research shows real brain differences in HSP’s
On the positive side, HSP’s are more empathetic, more aware, and more compassionate
Common for the HSP mother is to put themselves at the bottom of the priority list and take care of others first
Trained HSP vs. untrained HSP
Self-care---a conscious action you take to lower your stress and bring you to a balanced state
A key for HSP’s is getting enough sleep in order to understand and meet specific needs
An HSP mom’s default setting is to be hard on themselves and focus on everyone else’s needs
Certain parts of the brain in HSP moms will be overactive, like merging into everyone else’s moods and experiences
Many people who seek treatment for anxiety will also have the HSP trait
How HSP contributes to overall perinatal depression and anxiety, since everything changes in mind, body, and spirit
Why HSP’s need creative ways to get two hours of alone time each day
The tendency to measure everything in ourselves and others against the standard of perfection
Self-talk, with low levels of self-compassion and criticism of themselves
Common characteristics of HSP’s: perfectionism, sleep-deprived, overstimulated, and misunderstood
Steps to help HSP’s:
Develop self-compassion (Kristin Neff outlines 3 steps)
Take breaks when needed
50% of clients in therapy are HSP’s
Supporting moms and dads better in pregnancy and the postpartum period could impact parenting differently and offer more support
Using the right tools for support in children can prevent many problems and help them gain confidence and have an easier time accepting who they are
Soulfilled Sisterhood Ep 10: Parenting a Highly Sensitive Child
In this episode:
About 50% of people in therapy are HSPs (or sensory processing sensitivity)
Highly Sensitive Person-about 20% of populations
Greater sensitivity and responsiveness to the environment and social stimuli
Elaine Aron’s-DOES (episode 9)
Not the same as introversion
Trait in over 100 different species
Signs your child might be HSP-texture of clothing, feeling overwhelmed in crowds, more meltdowns,
Julie shares differences in the physical category, emotional, social
How parents can support HSP children
HSPs want to “get it right the first time”-learn to accept this is real and being more self-compassion with self
Role modeling self-care as an adult HSP-quiet time together
Using your creative powers to manage self-care
Research showing sensitive children supported by parents having less depression and anxiety
Top 5 Ways to Support your HSP-ness per Elaine AronPh.D.D work
Being in nature is “medicine for the HSPs” -Julie
Need 2 to 3 hours per day of quiet time
Recommend a day off per week
Sleep schedules and amount of sleep
Sleep impacts-mood, focusing, memory, physically, immune systems
Do same 5 things each night prior to bed helps your brain and system relax
HSPs do better with a slower morning routine
Taking mini-breaks throughout the day-mindfulness breaks
Practicing mindfulness-increases self-awareness (what do you say to yourself and how often do you judge yourself) and developing self-love
Are you using a perfectionistic stick to measure your life?
Julie shares her journey of taking off her mask and being more of herself
Rick Hansen’s visual he shared with Julie when dealing with an aggressive person
Women In-Depth Episode 63: Gifts & Challenges of the HSP
I was a featured guest several times on the Women in Depth Podcast with Dr. Lourdes Viado discussing the trait of the highly sensitive person.
What compelled Julie to write her new book Brain Training for the Highly Sensitive Person: Techniques to Reduce Anxiety and Overwhelming Emotions.
The definition of high sensitivity.
Unique challenges of HSPs and the correlation between high sensitivity and health issues.
The importance of self-care for highly sensitive persons.
The neuroscience/research on high sensitivity
Techniques that HSPs can use to manage their high sensitivity.
Women In-Depth Episode 88: Parenting the Highly Sensitive Child
What you’ll hear in this episode:
What is the D.O.E.S acronym and how does it pertain to high sensitivity?
The difference between a high-sensitivity trait and a sensory-processing disorder
What is the “super-computer brain” and how do we teach our children to manage it?
How learning your body’s sensations can give you control over your high sensitivity.
How and when to discipline a highly-sensitive child
Women In-Depth Episode 84: The Highly Sensitive Mother
What is the trait of high sensitivity?
How highly sensitive people process things differently than a non-sensitive person.
Why prioritizing finding time for self-care is so important for highly sensitive mothers.
The things HSP moms can do to re-energize throughout their day.
How a positive, supportive environment is essential when both mother and child are highly sensitive.
The ways an HSP mom can approach raising a non-sensitive child.
Practice of Being Seen: The Evolution of Sensitivity
At Practice Of Being Seen we discuss character traits that are common among HSPs, such as anxiety, low self-esteem, negative self-beliefs, and a sense of obligation to take care of others’ needs over their own. And we also explore the research which shows specific differences in the HSP’s brain. Julie shares why she feels sensitive people have always been needed among the human species for survival, evolutionarily speaking. Hosted by Rebecca Wong.